After what feels like forever without a date I was beginning to wonder whether it was time to say goodbye to my fabulous readers at "Oh My Dates" after all, without dates, the blog is rather redundant. However an old friend of mine invited me round to watch a film and since there was some minor history between us I decided it constituted being included on the blog.
The Guy - I met this particular guy through a couple of mutual friends on a night out over a year a go. He was eager to tell me he had a girlfriend and at 3 years my junior I can't say I was bothered. That was until the end of the night when we found ourselves kissing and sharing a sofa together. Since then we have kissed several times, he has broken up with his girlfriend, got back with her and broken up again and he has also moved to Australia and back.
The Date - Now well and truly single, I received a text inviting me over for a movie. After a lonely, boring, empty week I was in no position to say no and within an hour he had driven to my house and we were on our way to his house. We settled down on two separate sofas and watched a film. Throughout the film there were flirty digs about each others appearance and a few cushions thrown. When he went out to get a drink I jumped in to his seat (after all, he did have the bigger sofa) he came back and didn't think twice about cuddling up on the sofa to me, however when he turned over and kissed me my response probably wasn't what he was expecting. I said "Yuck" and wiped my mouth on my sleeve. Oops. I was in such a playful mood I wasn't really thinking. Needless to say he didn't try that again. After the film we watched some tv then it was time for him to drive me home. Once on my drive, we said our goodbyes, had a little hug and a goodnight kiss... and another goodnight kiss. Then that was it. The end of another night.
The Result - As always, I will see this guy again but we will never be anything more than "friends with benefits". I could never trust him and he is probably a bit too immature for me. However he is very attractive and a good friend.
I don't normally ask you questions but what do you think of this one? Should we just stay friends and not keep pushing it further? Are we messing with each others feelings? Do you have a friend that you are like this with? Let me know.
Sunday 6 November 2011
Sunday 16 October 2011
Update
Hey Ladies
Just wanted to update you quickly and let you all know that I am still here. Things went a bit quiet on the dating front for a while and then I had a couple of health problems however I am still talking to a few different people and will hopefully have some new dates very soon.
Thank you all so much for following. If you don't already follow my twitter then pop along to @OhMyDates for little mini updates.
Until next time, Happy Dating.
xoxo
Just wanted to update you quickly and let you all know that I am still here. Things went a bit quiet on the dating front for a while and then I had a couple of health problems however I am still talking to a few different people and will hopefully have some new dates very soon.
Thank you all so much for following. If you don't already follow my twitter then pop along to @OhMyDates for little mini updates.
Until next time, Happy Dating.
xoxo
Sunday 18 September 2011
Date #5 - Mr Flash
Slightly unusual date set up. I was out with a friend, he was out with a friend, so it seemed appropriate that we meet.
The Guy - Same site, different day and a rather impressive profile. It didn't take long to impress me. Owner of his own security company and not afraid to brag about his income, his pictures displayed him as a confident, handsome suit wearer. Smart and rich? Couldn't be bad.
The Date - Me and my friend were sure to arrive first and were soon greeted at our table by Mr Flash and his friend. After no introduction what so ever Mr Flash settled in to conversation with me and ignored both friends at the table. His pictures were incredibly generous. He was not a handsome suit wearer. His face was scarred and he was wearing scruffy baggy jeans and an old white tshirt that had certainly seen better days (And I suspect, better dates) He was quick to buy us drinks, then vanish outside with some other people. He would then come back, buy some more drinks and go out for a cigarette, then come back, buy some more drinks and go off to talk to some other people. This guy was definitely letting the money do the talking. As the night went on Me, My friend and his friend got talking more and more and it was apparent that he did this a lot. There really isn't a lot more to say about the night. Me and my friend left, without saying goodbye, and his mate quickly ran to catch up with us and took us home. In the car he gave me his number and I gave him mine. Before I had got in to bed he had text me asking me to come back over. I politely declined.
The Result - He still talks non stop about money and I now realise he gets his girls by buying them and that just isn't me at all. Thanks but no thanks.
The Guy - Same site, different day and a rather impressive profile. It didn't take long to impress me. Owner of his own security company and not afraid to brag about his income, his pictures displayed him as a confident, handsome suit wearer. Smart and rich? Couldn't be bad.
The Date - Me and my friend were sure to arrive first and were soon greeted at our table by Mr Flash and his friend. After no introduction what so ever Mr Flash settled in to conversation with me and ignored both friends at the table. His pictures were incredibly generous. He was not a handsome suit wearer. His face was scarred and he was wearing scruffy baggy jeans and an old white tshirt that had certainly seen better days (And I suspect, better dates) He was quick to buy us drinks, then vanish outside with some other people. He would then come back, buy some more drinks and go out for a cigarette, then come back, buy some more drinks and go off to talk to some other people. This guy was definitely letting the money do the talking. As the night went on Me, My friend and his friend got talking more and more and it was apparent that he did this a lot. There really isn't a lot more to say about the night. Me and my friend left, without saying goodbye, and his mate quickly ran to catch up with us and took us home. In the car he gave me his number and I gave him mine. Before I had got in to bed he had text me asking me to come back over. I politely declined.
The Result - He still talks non stop about money and I now realise he gets his girls by buying them and that just isn't me at all. Thanks but no thanks.
Tuesday 13 September 2011
Date #4 - The Old Friend
The more I think about this so called "date" the more I realise it probably wasn't.
The Guy - We met on Faceparty 6 years a go and spoke every day for around a year or two. Fast forward 6 years and I get a message on my current dating site from the very same guy. After a brief reminisce I found out he now works in my town and we decided we simply had to meet up. He then vanished in to thin air and made no contact for about a month. On reappearing he was very apologetic but gave no explanation. We arranged to meet.
The Date - He picked me up from near my house and we went to a Coffee shop just down the road. I breathed a sigh of relief when I got in the car and realised he actually looked like his pictures. Stocky and well built with just enough stubble. However it was on getting out the car I realised I had fallen in to the same lethal trap. He was short. Very short. Still we proceeded in to the coffee shop. The women took his order and asked if he would like anything else, This is where I expected him to ask what I wanted, Instead he said no thank you and handed over his money. Was I expecting too much for the man to pay? Or to even offer? We walked over to some seats. One seat a padded sofa chair, the other a metal stool. Like the true gentleman he was showing himself to be I got the metal stool.
It quickly became even more obvious to me that for him, this was anything but a date, as he spent the next hour discussing his ex, and his love for his ex, and his hate for his ex, his faults with his ex, the pros and cons of the relationship and...well... then I think I slipped in to some sort of coma because I truly don't remember a lot else. The last half an hour we discussed cars and I actually managed to interrupt a couple of times and get a few words in. Non of which he probably listened to. The best part of the entire thing was the journey home where he seemed to transform in to a different person and we had a laugh and a joke. He dropped me off in the same place he picked me up and rounded things off with a hug. His parting comment of "See you soon...well...ya know....when I'm not doing stuff" filled me with certainty that this would be another first and last date.
The Result - I think I've said enough.
The Guy - We met on Faceparty 6 years a go and spoke every day for around a year or two. Fast forward 6 years and I get a message on my current dating site from the very same guy. After a brief reminisce I found out he now works in my town and we decided we simply had to meet up. He then vanished in to thin air and made no contact for about a month. On reappearing he was very apologetic but gave no explanation. We arranged to meet.
The Date - He picked me up from near my house and we went to a Coffee shop just down the road. I breathed a sigh of relief when I got in the car and realised he actually looked like his pictures. Stocky and well built with just enough stubble. However it was on getting out the car I realised I had fallen in to the same lethal trap. He was short. Very short. Still we proceeded in to the coffee shop. The women took his order and asked if he would like anything else, This is where I expected him to ask what I wanted, Instead he said no thank you and handed over his money. Was I expecting too much for the man to pay? Or to even offer? We walked over to some seats. One seat a padded sofa chair, the other a metal stool. Like the true gentleman he was showing himself to be I got the metal stool.
It quickly became even more obvious to me that for him, this was anything but a date, as he spent the next hour discussing his ex, and his love for his ex, and his hate for his ex, his faults with his ex, the pros and cons of the relationship and...well... then I think I slipped in to some sort of coma because I truly don't remember a lot else. The last half an hour we discussed cars and I actually managed to interrupt a couple of times and get a few words in. Non of which he probably listened to. The best part of the entire thing was the journey home where he seemed to transform in to a different person and we had a laugh and a joke. He dropped me off in the same place he picked me up and rounded things off with a hug. His parting comment of "See you soon...well...ya know....when I'm not doing stuff" filled me with certainty that this would be another first and last date.
The Result - I think I've said enough.
Friday 9 September 2011
Date #3 - Mr Quietly Confident
The Guy - We met online within his first week of Internet dating. We ended up speaking all night and exchanging numbers very early on. He was friendly, smart and ambitious. Within days he was telling people about me and how great I seemed. He was obviously confident we were going to get on like a house on fire.
The Date - We met in the town centre outside a popular Weatherspoons (he was late) When he first walked up to me it was apparent we may have a small problem. Small being the main word here. Not only was he rather short but he was so skinny it was almost impossible to believe this was the same guy who had declared himself a chocoholic on his profile. It was then that I realised he was supposed to be 27 and it looked more like I had taken my baby brother out for lunch.
His first words "I'm nervous" put me totally as ease.
After sitting and playing with his drink for what felt like hours I suggested grabbing some food (since that's what we were originally there for)
We sat in silence waiting for our meals to arrive. I played with the menu, I played with the Christmas menu, I studied the ceiling in great depth, I even checked the dating site app on my phone. I had already talked about his family, his work, his house, his driving, his tattoo, his jewellery, his friends, marriage, babies, piercings, food, alcohol, murderers, the wall art, the carpet, and just about any other subject I could think of but this guy was not giving me anything in return. You could tell he is the shy and quiet type but unfortunately that just isn't me at all.
After the meal I played with the remainder of my sauce and the salt until I accidentally flung one at a passer by. I yawned.... twice and he suggested it was time to go. I didn't mean to but I simply flew out of my seat and floated on down the street. There was a hint for a kiss, I compromised with a hug.
The Result - Lovely sweet guy, who clearly has "our" future secretly planned out in his head but definitely not the one for me. I need a man, not a boy.
The Date - We met in the town centre outside a popular Weatherspoons (he was late) When he first walked up to me it was apparent we may have a small problem. Small being the main word here. Not only was he rather short but he was so skinny it was almost impossible to believe this was the same guy who had declared himself a chocoholic on his profile. It was then that I realised he was supposed to be 27 and it looked more like I had taken my baby brother out for lunch.
His first words "I'm nervous" put me totally as ease.
After sitting and playing with his drink for what felt like hours I suggested grabbing some food (since that's what we were originally there for)
We sat in silence waiting for our meals to arrive. I played with the menu, I played with the Christmas menu, I studied the ceiling in great depth, I even checked the dating site app on my phone. I had already talked about his family, his work, his house, his driving, his tattoo, his jewellery, his friends, marriage, babies, piercings, food, alcohol, murderers, the wall art, the carpet, and just about any other subject I could think of but this guy was not giving me anything in return. You could tell he is the shy and quiet type but unfortunately that just isn't me at all.
After the meal I played with the remainder of my sauce and the salt until I accidentally flung one at a passer by. I yawned.... twice and he suggested it was time to go. I didn't mean to but I simply flew out of my seat and floated on down the street. There was a hint for a kiss, I compromised with a hug.
The Result - Lovely sweet guy, who clearly has "our" future secretly planned out in his head but definitely not the one for me. I need a man, not a boy.
Friday 2 September 2011
Date #2 - The Lads Lad
I'm not even sure if this counts as a date but it involved a boy and a girl and that is good enough for me.
The Guy - Once again we met online however we soon realised we had lived merely doors apart for most of our lives, shared multiple friends and went to school together. He is a typical lads lad. He smokes like a chimney, drinks like a fish and swears like a trooper. Just my type.
The Date - After a brief meeting in a club one night (Hi how are you? Fine. Bye) and plenty of cancelled meetings later I was invited to his house to watch some films. Was this a date or friends meeting up? Who knew. After settling down on his single bed in the new house he had recently moved in to with some friends he was quick to reveal I was the only girl who had ever been over. Aren't I lucky? Some crap TV later and conversation was flowing. I turned round to say something highly intelligent and before I knew it we were kissing. He cooked me dinner which was lovely and even went out especially to buy toilet rolls. How romantic. The rest of the night was pretty much crap TV and kissing. Lovely little kisses on the cheek, the forehead and the shoulder. Every time I looked at him I felt more and more attracted. I couldn't pin point what it was but something about him made him irresistible to me and thankfully he declared he felt the same. On more than one occasion.
I stayed the night.
The Result - Not entirely sure what is going on in this lads head. However I did receive a message this morning regarding some problems he has been having in his personal life recently that I was already aware of. He said he would be in contact in a few days. We shall see.
The Guy - Once again we met online however we soon realised we had lived merely doors apart for most of our lives, shared multiple friends and went to school together. He is a typical lads lad. He smokes like a chimney, drinks like a fish and swears like a trooper. Just my type.
The Date - After a brief meeting in a club one night (Hi how are you? Fine. Bye) and plenty of cancelled meetings later I was invited to his house to watch some films. Was this a date or friends meeting up? Who knew. After settling down on his single bed in the new house he had recently moved in to with some friends he was quick to reveal I was the only girl who had ever been over. Aren't I lucky? Some crap TV later and conversation was flowing. I turned round to say something highly intelligent and before I knew it we were kissing. He cooked me dinner which was lovely and even went out especially to buy toilet rolls. How romantic. The rest of the night was pretty much crap TV and kissing. Lovely little kisses on the cheek, the forehead and the shoulder. Every time I looked at him I felt more and more attracted. I couldn't pin point what it was but something about him made him irresistible to me and thankfully he declared he felt the same. On more than one occasion.
I stayed the night.
The Result - Not entirely sure what is going on in this lads head. However I did receive a message this morning regarding some problems he has been having in his personal life recently that I was already aware of. He said he would be in contact in a few days. We shall see.
Monday 29 August 2011
Date #1 - Mr Too Good To Be True
Tonight's date could not have been a better first date to blog about. Sadly it didn't make for the greatest foundations of a budding romance.
The Guy - We met online, as most people do these days. At the time I was already quite interested in another prospective male but decided to keep my options open and thought it couldn't hurt to get to know someone else. The more I talked the more I liked what I heard. He almost seemed too good to be true. Despite the not so picturesque face, the wash board abs more than made up for it. He was kind, sensitive, funny, attentive and on top of that doesn't drink or smoke. What could possibly be wrong with him?
The Date - We decided to watch a film at his house. A bit risky, but we had been talking for so long it felt like we had known each other years, and I almost forgot he was a complete stranger. He picked me up at 6.25, 25minutes late due to a nail polish disaster (mine, not his) and we drove to his house. After a quick flick through the TV channels we settled on Friends and set about getting to know each other. Half an hour later and I had discovered he was previously engaged for 3 years, has dabbled in most drugs and thinks rather a lot of himself (it was all coming out now)
When his phone started ringing he apologised profusely before darting to answer it. It turns out his Auntie had had a stroke and was rushed in to hospital. More apologising and a few tearful pauses later I was in the car and on my way back home. After a quick kiss I was back in my house, after less than an hour. And that was it. Date over.
The Result - He is definitely more attractive in person and so easy to talk to. The drug fuelled past does put me off slightly but he has assured me it was many many years a go.
There will be a second date, but not for a while as he is working on lates. All good things come to those who wait though, Right?
The Guy - We met online, as most people do these days. At the time I was already quite interested in another prospective male but decided to keep my options open and thought it couldn't hurt to get to know someone else. The more I talked the more I liked what I heard. He almost seemed too good to be true. Despite the not so picturesque face, the wash board abs more than made up for it. He was kind, sensitive, funny, attentive and on top of that doesn't drink or smoke. What could possibly be wrong with him?
The Date - We decided to watch a film at his house. A bit risky, but we had been talking for so long it felt like we had known each other years, and I almost forgot he was a complete stranger. He picked me up at 6.25, 25minutes late due to a nail polish disaster (mine, not his) and we drove to his house. After a quick flick through the TV channels we settled on Friends and set about getting to know each other. Half an hour later and I had discovered he was previously engaged for 3 years, has dabbled in most drugs and thinks rather a lot of himself (it was all coming out now)
When his phone started ringing he apologised profusely before darting to answer it. It turns out his Auntie had had a stroke and was rushed in to hospital. More apologising and a few tearful pauses later I was in the car and on my way back home. After a quick kiss I was back in my house, after less than an hour. And that was it. Date over.
The Result - He is definitely more attractive in person and so easy to talk to. The drug fuelled past does put me off slightly but he has assured me it was many many years a go.
There will be a second date, but not for a while as he is working on lates. All good things come to those who wait though, Right?
Friday 26 August 2011
Intro
I thought being a single gal was going to be difficult. In a sea of loved up couples and liberated singles I felt stuck in my own Bridget Jones style bubble (vodka and ice cream at the ready)
When a close friend suggested Internet dating I really thought I had hit rock bottom. However it seems every man and his dog are seeking approval from a member of the opposite sex through their computer screen. Including people much younger than I.
So nearly one year on, and more disastrous dates than I care to remember, I have decided to document and share them with the singletons and the coupled of the world wide web.
Welcome to "Oh my Dates" and enjoy
When a close friend suggested Internet dating I really thought I had hit rock bottom. However it seems every man and his dog are seeking approval from a member of the opposite sex through their computer screen. Including people much younger than I.
So nearly one year on, and more disastrous dates than I care to remember, I have decided to document and share them with the singletons and the coupled of the world wide web.
Welcome to "Oh my Dates" and enjoy
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)